How to make a good impression.
We all know first impressions last and that you have about 2 seconds to impress someone! Some research indicates we can make judgments on personality within the first half a second of hearing a person’s voice.
We are unconsciously assessing the way you make us feel as part of the fight-or-flight response to see if you pose any danger to us.”
So, how can you ensure you make a good first impression?
Here are some tips to help you out….
“Approach new people in a soft voice. This does not mean being submissive, simply less threatening.” Be gentle and have a genuine caring tone.
“Dress accordingly for the circumstances.” Always make an effort, it shows you have pride in your appearance.
“Always wear a smile.” Its true what they say, smile and the world smiles with you!
“Focus on good, open, non-threatening body language.” Don’t cross your arms, point ect
“Ask the other person something about themselves as an opener.” Be genuinely interested in the other party. Make sure its not all about work and you.
“Be an active listener. Don’t plan what you’re going to say next, but actually listen to the other person.” The 80/20 rule, listen 80% of the time
“Be a paragon of politeness.” Thank you, please, don’t swear, don’t put other people or companies down.
“Be authentic and genuine.” Most importantly, be yourself! Don’t be fake and don’t pretend to do things you cant do. Be honest!
Some of reasons why a first impression may not go as intended can be because you are shy, nervous, tired, intimated or not confident.
“If you think you have made a bad impression, apologise, introduce humour, fall on your sword and say something like, ‘Oh dear, you must think me very silly’,”
People generally respect modesty and humility. Ask if you can start all over again – after all, what do you have to lose?
And remember…. although first impressions do matter, so does substance. The effect of good or bad impressions can fade once you get to know the person.
